Trigger: to initiate, actuate, or set off; to cause an intense and usually

negative emotional reaction in someone

[Merriam-Webster]

No, not talking about the kind that involves any kind of steel weapon.

This post pertains to triggers as described in the accompanying definition. In many ways, the damage these may lead to can be destructive in their own right.

While triggers can be described in many ways, let’s focus on the two aspects mentioned above:

  • To initiate, actuate, or set off. As I write this, my beloved sits in front of my new computer doing his best to problem solve. Not going well at the moment. The trigger? An electronic device that isn’t working properly initiates, actuates, and sets off certain reactions in him. While he mostly maintains his cool, there is an occasional less-than-gentlemanly utterance from his room that does not reflect his usual easy going temperament. Another example: Years ago I would avoid most television programs or movies that dealt with the subject of alcoholism and related dysfunction. Certain scenes, behavior, and language stirred—triggered—painful memories of my childhood growing up with a father who had addiction issues.
  • To cause an intense and usually negative emotional reaction in someone. Not a good sign. Being intense in certain parts of our life can be a good thing, however, if my actions trigger an unusually negative emotional reaction, the results won’t bode well for anyone. Triggers that produce intense and negative emotional reactions come in a variety of shapes and sizes, unique to each of us. Our psychological makeup, life experiences, and things that occur in our family, community, and the larger world can all be part of this mix.

What are we to do, then, when triggers have the potential to trip us up and likely make life more painful for those we love, as well as ourselves?

  • Learn to identify the trigger, its characteristics, the thoughts and feelings that accompany it. To the point—name that trigger. For instance: several years ago as I journeyed through an extended season of health issues, I subscribed to a Lent and Advent series of reflections from a writer/speaker known for content that encouraged and uplifted the viewer. And indeed, pondering those meditations helped get me through a difficult time.

However, the following year I noticed a hesitancy to repeat the process. Enter the trigger. I realized that every time I heard the voice or saw the face, it reminded me—painfully so—of the previous challenges and suffering. Aware of the associations that could have been a block, I went ahead. Over time, the trigger has become much less effective. By redirecting my thoughts and feelings, I am able to appreciate these reflections.

  • Seek the healing you need—psychological, emotional, physical, or spiritual—that will render the trigger ineffective, or at least defuse the intensity and negativity of any ensuing emotional reaction.

Triggers often have their roots in unpleasant or painful experiences in our past. For instance, the odor of a woman’s heavy perfume or a man’s after shave may stir memories of the destructive behaviors of a promiscuous family member. Spiritual guides, counselors, and medical professionals are trained to recognize the dynamics set in motion by triggers. Each has expertise in their discipline and can offer insights that lead to healing. Don’t be afraid to seek help. It is the strong person who embraces the wisdom and encouragement God can provide through these compassionate and caring individuals.

Consider this exercise: the next time your thoughts or feelings seem about to go over the edge, stop and ask the Lord—what is the trigger? What is at the root of this trigger? Is there something I need to understand about what initiates, actuates, sets off, or causes an intense and usually negative emotional reaction within me?

When we take the time to deal with the triggers in our life, we discover new peace and joy. What better outcome could we hope for than that?

How do I feel about the idea of triggers in my life?

Am I open to trusting God to help me identify and heal them?

Would I consider meeting with a qualified professional to help me through the process?